Since lots of my associates know my important and I am not tremendous comfy sharing prices with them, I made a throwaway. I am an accountant and am extraordinarily meticulous about monitoring prices and budgeting, so after we first obtained engaged I created a spreadsheet for our price range and had tabs to maintain observe of each expense class intimately. That is our price range versus precise expenditure abstract. We used an ‘multi function’ venue, which included the ceremony, officiant, catering, bar, most floral, and DJ. So I took the whole paid to the venue and allotted it throughout a number of classes based mostly on how the pricing would change by including/deleting issues. Our venue was a golf course that had been transformed to a nature protect. The ceremony was outside, and the reception was in a big banquet room with enormous ground to ceiling home windows overlooking the protect.
We had been very lucky, and had been gifted cash by each my mother and father the grooms, and the whole quantity gifted coated the whole value of the marriage.
Deliberate price range: $30-35ok
Precise Spent: $45,802.34
Venue Whole: $21,811.55
Invited Visitors: 169
RSVPed by deadline: 160 (of the non-rsvps, Three had been a household that simply had a child and misplaced observe/assumed we knew they could not come, four had been “misplaced within the mail”, and a couple of assumed we knew they had been coming. All responded instantly after being referred to as four days previous the RSVP deadline)
Sure RSVP: 136
No Present: 24 (we had some fairly unlucky extenuating circumstances with my household that resulted in a household feud so 24 folks did not present up as a result of they had been siding towards a member of the family that was attending. There have been no no-shows that weren’t instantly associated to this case)
Ceremony: We used a non-denominational officiant who was completely fantastic. Very distinctive and ‘old style hippy’ sort who made a really quirky however joyful ceremony for us. No tears had been shed, however there was quite a lot of laughter. We used her for our premarital counseling as properly, which I excessive recommend.
Marriage ceremony rings: mine was $1,200 from BlueNile. Platinum with marquise reduce diamonds. His was $393 from Amazon, palladium with no stones.
Reception: Our venue dealt with 100% of the cocktail hour and reception. We dropped off our decor the night time earlier than, together with desk numbers and a few flowers. They set the whole lot up, and dealt with the catering, DJ, bar, photobooth, and helped us do desk touches. This venue was the perfect determination we made in wedding ceremony planning. It was so stress free on our wedding ceremony day. We had a banquet captain who principally guided us to wherever we would have liked to be, stored our drinks full all night time, and stored bringing us meals.
We had six handed appetizers and an open bar with properly liquor for the cocktail hour. Visitors had been in a room proper subsequent to the reception corridor. We selected crab muffins, jerked rooster skewers, bacon wrapped shrimp, caprese salad skewers, fried spring rolls, and olive tapenade on cucumber slices.
The company had been moved from the cocktail room to the reception corridor. The DJ launched us, and we had our first dance. Then they began dinner. We selected a buffet, which induced some judgement from household however we undoubtedly do not remorse it. With the buffet, we had been in a position to decide on three important dishes and a starter salad, after which the chef chooses eight sides. It additionally got here with contemporary bread rolls and steamed veggies. We selected mahi mahi with pinapple salsa, balsamic rooster, and carved prime rib with au jus and horseradish. I do not even keep in mind all the perimeters, however I feel they had been principally chilly salads like pasta salad, potato salad, three bean salad, and so forth.
Included within the reception class was our cake. Or, relatively, cupcakes. We opted for cupcakes as they had been cheaper, and we now have a favourite bakery that does AMAZING gluten free cupcakes (tremendous necessary because the groom and his household have celiac’s illness). We ordered 142 cupcakes (40 every GF salted caramel, GF lemon, GF coconut, and GF peanutbutter cup, 10 vegan vanilla, 10 vegan chocolate, and a couple of jumbo chocolate cupcakes with bride/groom decorations). We ended up having 112 company, of which 5 or so left earlier than dessert (little youngsters had been getting drained). The cupcakes had been so widespread, we had solely 4 leftover! Visitors had been raving about all of them night time, and I nonetheless get folks asking me the place I obtained them.
We had a photobooth out for company for the whole cocktail hour and reception, and about 75% of our company took benefit of it.
We additionally had dancing, and our DJ was implausible. I might say no less than 75% of the company had been on the dance ground for a lot of the night time. It was so packed folks had been dancing between tables.
Stationary: I used minted for our save the dates (magnets with our photograph), engagement celebration invites, bridal bathe invites, and wedding ceremony invites. I used to be actually proud of the standard and repair. I felt that I obtained actually very nice stationary for the worth, though I am nonetheless in sticker shock at how a lot we spent on paper that will get thrown away.
Flowers/decor: We upgraded to gold chivari chairs, gold charger plates, pink napkins, backlighting for the lover desk (they draped gentle material and twinkle lights behind out desk), and string lights for the reception corridor. The venue worth included centerpieces, however I obtained the bouquets/corsages/boutonnieres from a distinct florist. The flowers not included within the venue ran me $1,231.72, and included 7 bridesmaids bouquets, 1 bridal bouquet (it was huge, weighed over ten kilos and I LOVED it), 1 toss bouquet, eight boutonnieres, and three corsages. We additionally bought two inexperienced garlands from costco, one to hold over our ceremony arch and one to embellish the cupcake desk.
I bought vases, despite the fact that they had been included with out reception bundle. I spent $86 on mercury glass pedestal vases in rose gold. I imagine six had been taken by company, and we nonetheless have ten.
Our ceremony decor was a bunch of pictures of my husband and I as infants/youngsters/teenagers, my mother and father wedding ceremony pictures, gold birdcage cardbox, our various visitor e book, and the desk numbers which value me $183.54 to place collectively. I purchased image frames, a plain chicken cage, and wooden desk numbers on-line and painted them rose gold. I obtained our visitor e book off of etsy.
Images: We discovered this AMAZING photographer who solely works half time in southern California. His charges had been half the worth of anybody regionally. We had him and an assistant from 1:00pm – 11:00pm on our wedding ceremony day. The images precise worth contains flights for him and his assistant, a resort and rental automobile for them, and his charges. We obtained our pictures again in two weeks! And so they’re completely superb.
Not listed within the price range is videography. However an excellent household buddy stunned us by bringing a crew to movie the whole wedding ceremony and giving us the uncooked footage. My dad used to work in theater and occasion planning, and this household buddy is one in all his oldest and closest associates. He’s knowledgeable videographer that focuses on occasions (weddings, concert events, and so forth). Such an insanely beneficiant reward!
Costume/Make-up/Hair/Tux: I paid for all my bridesmaids, my mother, my aunt, two shut associates, and myself to have hair and make-up performed. 11 women obtained hair, 12 obtained make-up. The hair stylist is an efficient household buddy, and her reward was to do my hair free of charge and get us a kick ass fee on the opposite women. Our whole for hair, make-up, and suggestions for 12 folks was $2,287.50 which is insanely low-cost for this space. Everybody else I contacted was asking $90-200 per individual for hair, and $100-250 per individual for make-up. My gown, alterations, and veil got here to $1,846.50. The remaining quantities spent had been small issues like earrings, sneakers, and bowties. The grooms tux rental was free.
Music: Our venue worth included a DJ, who was superior. They’d us fill out a worksheet then assigned a DJ based mostly on our model. We additionally had 4 good associates who’re extraordinarily proficient musicians play a quartet for our ceremony. They requested to not be paid, however we ‘tipped’ them every $100.
Transportation: We rented a 30-person luxurious bus for 3:00pm – 11:30pm. It match the whole bridal celebration, our photographers, our videographer, and everyones dates. We had it choose us up from the resort, carry us to a seashore for pictures, then to the venue, then again to the resort.
Presents and Favors: This one obtained out of hand quick for us. Bridesmaids and grooms ask items (liquor bottles with customized labels), customized flasks for the grooms on the day of, bridal goody backs for the women (customized water bottle, copy of Bridesmaids film, and an ’emergency package’ with tampons, hair ties, bobby pins, q suggestions, tide pens, hairspray, chapstick, and so forth), wedding ceremony favors (mini candles with our names in a floral wreath on high), and welcome containers (crammed with 4 kinds of snacks, water, juice, and a mini first support package) added as much as $1,260.73.
The items for our mother and father are what had been actually expensive although. I had customized jewellery made for every guardian with my husband, mine, and our siblings birthstones. Keychain for his dad, tie bar for mine, necklace for his mother, and ring for mine. They totaled $1,000 even (paid in money at a jeweler who gave a bulk low cost).
Rehearsal Dinner: This one additionally obtained out of hand. I had wished a pizzeria, however my in legal guidelines wished a particular restaurant on the town that was extraordinarily costly. We had 22 folks at our rehearsal dinner, and it value $3,339.50.
Engagement Celebration: This contains liquor for blended drinks, and catering for 75 folks.
Bridal celebration bills: I actually wished to maintain prices down for my women. I requested them to choose any ground size gown in dusty rose from Azazie ($150 max), and put on any sneakers that had been white, cream, pink, rose gold, gold, or nude. I feel just one lady had to purchase sneakers, everybody else wore one thing they already had.
It was a vacation spot for everybody within the bridal celebration, in order that they needed to pay for resort rooms at our resort ($179/night time, most booked two nights), and flights. Nonetheless everybody within the celebration had mother and father that had been invited who coated their journey bills and I imagine resort rooms. I’ve no estimate for journey bills.
The groomsmen go well with leases had been $225, and we purchased them every a tie.
The bachelorette was at disneyland, and I coated the air bnb and most meals. They paid for transportation ($10-$250 relying on the place they had been coming from), their ticket ($90 by a deal by someones work), and meals on the park ($50ish).
Groomsmen rented a cabin and BBQed/drank so much for a weekend. I imagine the whole value was just below $200 per individual, plus transportation ($10-250 relying on the place they got here from).
Whole bridesmaids expenditures: $479 – 898 relying on what number of nights they stayed and transportation.
Whole groomsmen expenditures: $604-$1,033 relying on transportation and what number of nights they stayed.
Visitor Opinions: To this point, we have heard principally good issues from our company. I am certain nobody would ever truly inform the bride and groom if their wedding ceremony sucked, however we have had tons of individuals inform us it was the perfect wedding ceremony they have been to in years, the meals was superior, and the DJ was actually good. The one damaging I’ve heard is a couple of snarky distant associates apparently thought my selection in bridesmaids gown shade was ‘terrible’.
What went fallacious: Nothing we may have predicted or managed went fallacious. It was actually simply the stunning variety of final minute drop outs/no exhibits as a result of household feud happening (which we weren’t concerned in). My brother and my sister in regulation rock although, as a result of they each invited a bunch of associates final minute, and had them wait exterior the reception corridor till everybody was seated. They every then grabbed title playing cards that had been left, and made certain to evenly fill out the tables.
We additionally had a bridesmaid drop out as a result of household stuff. So final minute we needed to alter how folks walked down the aisle, however I do not suppose anybody observed.
Dinner was served a bit late. I did not discover, as a result of the entire day felt like a ten minute blur. However I am certain some company had been irritated.
I actually did not like the perimeters the chef picked. I want I had been extra particular about wanting a number of the sides they promote and extra fresh-veggie sort dishes. I assumed the perimeters they made had been very ‘yard BBQ’ or ‘firm picnic’ model, and did not match with the proteins being served.
What would I alter: I feel I might keep on with my weapons and go for the pizza place. We may have had our dinner there for round $1,000-1,500 tops. I simply do not suppose the place we used was price the additional $2k.
I would not change the rest although. I liked each facet of our wedding ceremony and it turned out higher than I may have imagined. I had some issues about how a lot we spent on flowers and decorations, however I’m SO comfortable I blew the price range on these gadgets. I do not even care if nobody else observed, I assumed our reception corridor and ceremony arch seemed straight out of pinterest.
Ideas for future brides: Do not let folks bulldoze you into altering belongings you like. Do not let somebody guilt you into spending cash on issues you do not care about. But additionally, do not let somebody speak you out of spending cash on one thing you care about. I obtained quite a lot of crap for a way a lot I spent on flowers, however it was completely price it to me. Significantly. The duvet of my wedding ceremony photograph album is a closeup of my bouquet. I’ve gotten so many compliments on them, and half of the feedback on our fb pictures are principally ‘superb flowers!’.